Food, friendship and fun for everyone at Northampton Jesus Centre this Christmas

At this time of year most of us in the Western hemisphere will be eating more, over the holiday period,  than we usually would regardless of our faith or personal beliefs about Christmas; meals take on an additional significance at times of festivity. Food is a central part of any celebration and judging by the queues in the supermarkets food is an important part of the Christmas ritual for most people. But for others Christmas can be a painful reminder of what they haven’t got, including relationships that have broken down or are strained and loved ones who have died. Meals were very important to Jesus too He chose to spend the night before he died sharing a meal with his closest friends.

Here at the Northampton Jesus Centre we are only too aware that there will be many, not just the homeless, who will be eating alone over this holiday period and so we ensure that, although all our normal services are closed and staff and regular volunteers get a well-earned break we are providing a community meal for anyone who is on their own who cares to join us. Most of us would agree that even though manyof us in the Developed world have more than we've ever had, we are less satisfied and something of the joy in the simple things in life has been lost in the name of progress, trampled underfoot by the gods of comsumerism and materialism.

I was reading an article recently by community activist Jean Vanier*

he was asked if he ever regretted founding his community for physically and mentally impaired adults in 1964, or though he might have made the wrong decision. What he said resonated with me and my experience in a very different type of community:

  “ What struck me was that I’d found home… We had fun. Everything was around meals... "

         "When I say meals, we’d buy food, make food, cook food, eat food, do the washing up, prepare the next meal. Everything was around food and the food was to be around the table. 

         There’s a beautiful text of Jesus where he says, when you give a meal, don’t invite the members of your family, don’t invite your rich neighbours. When you give a really good meal, invite the poor, lame, the disabled and the blind and you will be truly blessed  

( Luke 14:13)….   

         So I wanted to build a community not an institution.

 And that’s what attracted people… 

when people came, they ate at our table and had fun.” **

I live in an intentional Christian community, in Northampton, with my husband and 10 other adults and 3 children who are not part of our natural family, but members of our church. Mealtimes are a central part of creating home, family and a sense of belonging to us too and so we will bring that sense of community and family with us when we cook brunch on Christmas morning for whoever cares to join us. We’ll all muck in and cook, wash up and welcome visitors and hopefully bring some love and joy and peace to those in need of it. So we will open our doors to whoever is in need of food, friendship and warmth and share something of the happiness we’ve found in our community family life together and we’ll have some fun together. 

Northampton Jesus Centre- Christmas meal times

Friday 25^th December 10am-12pm –  Festive brunch for anyone on their own

Saturday 26^th December 10-1pm -  Festive buffet lunch open to anyone on their own

Monday 1pm- 4pm Christmas curry - open to anyone on their own

Notes: *Jean Vanier -  is a Canadian Catholic philosopher, theologian and humanitarian. He founded L'Arche in 1964, an international federation of communities spread over 35 countries, for people with developmental disabilities and those who assist them. (Wikipedia)

** Quotes from this article were taken from the original article produced in The Globe and Mail on 22^nd December 2016  Jean Vanier’s comfort and joy: ‘What we have to do is find the places of hope’

Why do we have Jesus Centres?

Jesus Centres are the Jesus Fellowship church/Jesus Army in action. They are an integral part of the ministry of the church. 

 

Jesus Centres aim to “Express the love of Jesus daily, in worship, friendship & help for every kind of person?”  

  

 As a social worker I had often longed for a one stop shop where people could come and have all of their needs met and where my faith could be a part of the helping them find a solution. So often social work just felt like sticking a plaster on a gaping wound- people found help and support and a limited alleviation from personal suffering but so often the root causes of why they were in the mess they were in went un dealt with. When the vision for Jesus Centres was first expressed to me my Spirit leapt but my head went,  “we’re made, we’re far too busy as a church to take this on. Do they have any idea what they’re getting us into?” 

So why did we embark on what has proved to be a tough cookie to digest?

 Times have changed and these days the church doesn’t always carry a lot of credibility with people- it might be seen as out dated or its members’ naïve.  The church needs to earn the right to speak and be heard by people. Jesus frequently met people’s practical needs for food & physical health before he told them to repent or called them to follow Him. 

They’re more easily accessible to a wider group of people.

Church can often feel like a club where people need to adhere to the members code of behaviour, values and beliefs. They are only available to people at certain times and days and people may fear being forced into making a commitment they’re not ready or equipped to make. Whereas Jesus Centres are public places open to anyone regardless of their faith or non-faith. People who might never go to church will feel more comfortable in the Jesus Centre. It meets more obvious needs in their lives. Agencies feel more comfortable signposting people for help and in providing services based at the Jesus Centre.  There is no faith requirement to access or participate in are groups or services. Therefore, it makes the church accessible & available to a wide variety of people.

They preach the gospel without words

Jesus Centres reach and meet people’s needs in a way that church can’t. It enables the church to be available to people during the day, every day.  They are better able to support those who are homeless, need to learn English, are lonely or have mental health issues.  We can provide a shower, laundry facilities, a listening ear, help learning English or an environment where people feel relaxed & welcome ; where they find home and family and a sense of belonging.

They extend the capacity of the church

It is a gateway to the Kingdom of God- it is the place where people can meet Christians and explore faith, if they wish, without going to church – which these days is alien to most of the population.

It is a net that can catch people if they begin to struggle in their faith, pick up old habits and lifestyles and disengage from the church but still need and want relationship and support.

They are better equipped & resourced to support and help people in a variety of ways.

It creates the time & space to listen to people; enables relationships to be formed without the clutter of needing to sign up to commitment or a certain doctrine or lifestyle.

They give people an outlet for service

They give the church an opportunity to put their faith into action and share the love of Jesus in practical ways. It was Mother Teresa who said “do small things with great love”.  The success of the Jesus Centres depends on each volunteer & member of staff doing these small acts of kindness with great love every single hour of every day we are open.

It’s a place where as Christians we can live out our faith and Jesus’ call to love the poor (& even rich people can be poor in Spirit- mentally, emotionally, relationally)

 They help people explore faith & find their place

They offer opportunities for church members and visitors to use their skills, develop new ones and feel they can be contributors more easily than it may be in the church.

 Here'a quote from one of our visitors who became a cafe helper:

“I am truly grateful to the Jesus Centre for allowing me to volunteer. During my time there, they did far more for me than I ever did for them. Thanks to them my confidence is restored and I’ve secured employment and my own flat. I’ve made many friends there. They are amazing people and I love them a lot. Without them, I don’t know where I would be.”

Welcome home

The death of visitors always causes you to reflect. Did we do all that we could have done? Did they experience the love of God through what we did do for them? Where are they now?  It reminds us how fragile some our visitors’ lives are and how important it is that they are made to feel welcome and at home.

             

We have a picture painted for us in our Step up, drop in space- it has many worn and lost faces – young old, black white with the title ‘ Welcome Home’ . When I look at it each morning it reminds me why I am doing what I am doing. Whether our visitors’ find a relationship with God  for themselves is not always  certain but as long as they find home – a place where they feel they are welcomed, accepted, valued and safe then they are already half way on the journey.

If your experience has taught you, that no one can be trusted;  how do learn to trust that not all fathers beat you or abuse you or let you down and that there is a heavenly father who is perfect in His love for you and who is totally trust worthy?

Part of the answer lies somewhere in a comment made to me in an attempt to help some of the sadness that I felt over the tragic end to these two visitors’ lives.

“ May be they saw enough of Jesus in us , that when they meet Him face to face they will recognise Him and that will be enough for Him to welcome them in.”

Why we need men that care

I've been thinking about the impact of fatherless alot recently. Both my husband and I have experienced it in different ways. My husband's father died when he was 6 months old so he never really knew him and my father died suddenly during my first year at university. We're both very aware of the impact this has had on our lives, as adults. We both work at the Jesus Centre in our Step up project which reaches out to the homeless, roofless and vulnerably housed. Statistically up to 85% of them will have experienced some form of fatherlessness.

This may include an emotionally absent father, physically absent, passive or aggressive father.  Some of the documented issues fatherlessness creates for young men who experience it include:

* Anger
* Insecurities about who they are
* Fierce independence 
* lack of trust in authority
* competativeness
* inability to share their feelings  
* inability to relate to their own children 

Consequently they struggle to relate to the notion of God as a loving father who is there for them.

 So what's that got to do with needing men who care? Well, it got me thinking because we're recruiting a new Deputy manager, Drop in manager and personal development worker at the Jesus Centre at the moment. Statistically, according to the latest figures in 'The UK voluntary sector workforce Almanac' 68% of staff in the voluntary sector are woman. 


As a species women are generally much better suited to the nurturing, caring role which is why so many will go for jobs where they can teach, help and support people to make improvements in their lives

However, statistically here at the Jesus Centre 75% of our visitors to the Step Up project are male. 55% of our total visitors to the Jesus Centre are male. That's an awful lot of men who will be effected by issues of fatherlessness. They need men who can positively model fathering to them if we want them to even begin to relate to God their heavenly father.


Men who can help them learn how to find forgiveness for their fathers and release for their anger
Men who have found their security in who God says they are 
Men who can support them show them it's ok to be vulnerable and admit your need for other people
Men who are trustworthy and will be true to their word
Men who will listen and encourage them to share their feelings
Men who will relate to them and teach them how to relate as fathers to their own children.

As the saying goes "Anyone can be a dad.. it takes a man to be a father"
Are you man enough to take up the challenge to be a father to this fatherless generation?